Psychology of relationships between men and women: advice from professionals

Men and women are so diametrically opposed that we do not question the metaphorical comparison: men come from Mars and women are from Venus. The complex relationship between male and female psychology explains not only the historical conditioning, sociocultural factors, biological differences, but also psychophysiological features. It is this combination of factors creates barriers and difficulties in communication and interaction between men and women.

Stereotypes in the psychology of men and women

When a man and woman enter into a relationship thinking that begin completely independent new stage in their lives, hoping to a new level and a clean sheet in his biography, they forget that it is illusion. The Company has taken care of that is firmly rooted in the consciousness of humanity roles and images of women and men, calling their stereotypes.

Gender stereotypes sprouted back in history, cultures, so that they live these ideas in the minds of Each of us, with very few people is aware of how much they affect the relationships and life in whole. It stereotypes dictate the rules of building relationships, status and social differences, the psychology of communication between man and woman. After all, every woman knows what social norms should correspond to its choice and every man is looking for a girl who also will meet the demands of society.

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Classic stereotypes of the society of men and women are:

group stereotypes	Man	Female
Masculinity/ femininity	Independent, self-assertive, dominant, rational, active, aggressive	Gentle, passive, emotional, sensitive, caring
work Experience	The leader must be a man; Type of activity: management, organizational, instrumental (manual labor)	Serving and executive spheres of activity
Priority professional and family values	Priorities career development, advancement through the ranks. Male - breadwinner and protector	Core values - family, children, home, taking care of the man.
sexual features	Sexual experience, perseverance, a man wins the women as trophies	Attractive, passionate lover, which has poor sexual experience

Of course, that not all embody the reality of these stereotypes. But this does not prevent the majority live by expectations that a man will strive to earn, keep paying position and generate income in the family, and the woman will be a caring mother, a skillful hostess on weekends bake delicious pies. When these expectations are not met or there are differences, then the relationship between male and female psychology examines how conflict.

In this case, it would be a field of the social compatibility of partners, when life and family values there are disagreements. No matter to what area they would be: home, sexual or material, if these values are common to men and women, then sooner or later the odds grow into accusations and conflicts.

The difference psycho-physiological characteristics, their impact on the relationship between man and woman

"When a man and a woman remember the differences between them and treat them with understanding and respect, then there is a chance that their love will bloom to full flower" (John Gray).

Differences between men and women originate more from his mother's womb when the fetus is formed from an embryo belonging to a particular sex. This anatomical and biological features, in addition to which there are differences in psihofiziologicheskihharakteristikah. After all, the image of women negligent driver, which can not effectively cope with the car control in an emergency - is not just anecdotal stereotype. Such behavior is due, primarily, lack of spatial thinking and a low threshold of response to critical situations.

These features of the higher nervous activity and make adjustments to the psychology of men and women. There are differences in perception and reproduction of information, which can be a real barrier to understanding and interaction between men and women. Man and woman

Physiological characteristics of men and women

psychophysiological differences	men	Women
Thinking	Think logically, scale, simplifying and omitting minutiae; We tend to generalize	Thinking is subject to intuition prevails figurative; We tend to analyze
cerebration	Finding a solution, the problem of isolation	Fixation on what is happening and the impact on the emotional state
Perception	Perceived as a whole	Prone to detail
Personal characteristics	Practical, rational	Sensitive, emotional
Developing the scope of abilities	It is well oriented in space	Thinly own fine motor skills of hands
directionality	technical	Humanitarian
The main motives	success	Social interaction and communication
activity	They prefer independence, innovation and creativity	Operate on algorithms, templates, instructions; eXECUTIVE
voice Activity	Prone to discussion and dialogue	Prefer conversations and monologues
The rate of reaction in critical situations	Fast reaction	inhibition test
Memory	The high volume of short-term memory	The high volume of long-term memory

Given these differential differences between male and female psychology makes a remark the significant differences in the characteristics of thinking, perception, memory, personal orientation, communication. Against this background, in the relationship between man and woman can poyavlyatsyaprotivorechiya and misunderstanding.

Basic errors, which result in the physiological differences between men and women:

men perceive women, complicating everything, found fault with the detail and prone to soul-searching, and men seem to be superficial and "die-hard";
Women seem to be emotionally unstable and easily feelings and emotions, while men are considered to be too cold, pragmatic and indifferent;
men often detract claims, the intelligence of the opposite sex and the ability to master technical activities;
men think that women can only speak and not capable of action and solving problems, and they, in turn, accuse the men in the absence of verbal approval and support, consider them closed in Statement;
Women accuse men in forgetfulness and inattention.

To the relationship between man and woman was a chance for conflict-free development, both partners need to be prudent and condescending to the psycho-physiological sexual characteristics. Women should not take the personal account the fact that the man does not remember the anniversary of the first kiss, date, first confession and first sex, consider it a feature of their perception. And men need to communicate with women, let them speak out - because it is their natural need. couple

Psychology of conflict behavior in the relationship between man and woman

Personal clash of opposing interests and opinions in a pair also are due to a number of classic reasons. There are associations, which are dominated by one group of reasons, but when the reasons are layered on top of each other, like a snowball - the question is likely to be a partner of incompatibility.

The main psychological causes of conflict behavior in the relations between men and women emit:

The struggle for supremacy in the pair.

The modern reality is that women no longer feel dependent and weak. They claim to power and leadership in the relationship. Not all men are willing to voluntarily surrender its sphere of influence, because the need to subdue a woman still relevant and has a base instinct.

But in this case, the distribution of power is not always typical. It happens that the woman did not resist the male leadership, and form manifestations of power: the authoritarian and aggressive. There are also milder versions of the "struggle": despite the fact that one of the partners wants to occupy a dominant position, and the second insists on the equality between men and women, what psychologists call equality floors. Not unique as cases where managing relationships to be out of the pair. For example, the mother of someone of one of the partners, which does not recognize the primacy of the latter.

The discrepancy in the personal and family values.

Value - is the skeleton on which are superimposed the other beliefs and outlooks on life. Psychology of relationships between men and women needs to be corrected already in this value-motivational level. This takes into account the most important family values, such as "a sober man," "a true woman." And when your partner does not support or reject them, these relationships can be completed under the remark "do not get along."

There are differences in the secondary and values, such as "non-smoking women," "the man, conducting weekend with your family." Such discrepancies in the values of rupture may not result, but such a relationship between a man and a woman, the psychology of conflict behavior would call inharmonious.

Protection of the "I" and positive self-esteem.

Harmonious relationships are built on acceptance, respect, support, nurturing self-esteem and positive feedback emotions. Otherwise, when one partner starts to humiliate the second self-esteem, not only insulting, but also reproaches derogatory ( "Who are you without me", "I love you and provide Contains", "I love you day and night serve"), the second begins to enter the conflict, protecting the integrity of their "I".

Each psychologically healthy person wants to cultivate within themselves a positive "self-image", the resources for which are taken with a close circle of people, first of all, from their loved ones.

Violation of understanding in relations between man and woman

"Men... can not know what women need - they need to tell about it" (John Gray).

Communication in the pair may be complicated due to the mistakes of building dialogue and transmission of information. This happens when one person put it clear - took another wrong information. Such mistakes are made unintentionally, do not necessarily lead to conflict, but still deliver psychological distress, negative emotions and lead to misunderstandings.

Frequent mistakes made in communication, consider:

Indefinite and unspecified message that the source can be interpreted from the height of his imagination. For example: "Come on, sometime go to the movies", "So you want to pleasant surprises," "Tired of soup, you want something new."
Avoiding questions or knight's move. For example: "When can we go for new boots?" - "When you cook tasty meatballs?".
Exaggeration, and exaggeration. For example: "You can never wake up early", "I always miss one weekend," "You reproach me endlessly."
Attributing unspeakable words, fantasizing. For example: "You deliberately you go in the shower, when I need to get ready for work?", "Do you think I'm stupid you?".

obstacles

In the relationship between man and woman there is a lot of language barriers when the situation does not imply anything negative, but the dialogue has taken place, so that from the "fly up the elephant."

The real situation	The meaning of the message, which meant one partner	The meaning of the message, which caught the other partner
She asks him: "What time did you get back to work?"	SHE wants to calculate the time of cooking dinner.	He: was annoyed because the thought that she was again controls it.
He asks her: "You have a new manicure?"	He: decided to express their approval.	She: resentment, that he is sorry for the money spent.
She tells him: "Turn off the TV, let's go to bed"	She: subtly hints at the intimate course of the evening.	He: feel anger, because the thought that she was in command of them.

Communication between man and woman is based on the peculiarities of perception prepodnesonnoy information. In order to simplify this process and to speak "the same language", it is possible to adhere to the basic rules of communication:

Concretely and concisely articulate their requests, messages, questions.
Listen to the interlocutor, "active", asking clarifying questions and summarizing what was said.
Emote, give feedback.

The relationship between a man and a woman psychology can not designate the topic has exhausted itself. In addition to the historical and cultural background, gender differences and communication errors, here is added the current trends and developments. When a woman feels more successful and stronger men, when stereotypes are broken down on the artificial barriers of communication, in which the relationships begin and end messaging and "like" on social networks, it becomes fertile ground for new research and adjustments of classical ideas about the psychology of relationships between men and woman.

Psychology conscious relationship

So, what is a conscious relationship?

I focus on the fact that I am talking about the growth of the individual women as women and men as men personality.

This goal is common and at the same time personal. It brings together people who love a pair.

Currently, most people start a relationship just to satisfy their needs (physical, sexual, and very rarely - spiritual).

And modern psychology of men in a relationship is not very different from the female, what would there not talking. Women are even more likely than men to start a relationship, which are looking for the benefits. I think that here you will not argue with me.

But such motivation may be the cause of the existence of a relationship for a few years, and, in the end, comes a feeling of dissatisfaction.

When man and woman come together, inspired by the common goal of personal growth, relationships begin to lead to something much more than just enjoyment.

Psychology of relationships between men and women is improved, so that the two personalities that complement each other and together can achieve much more than alone. As a result, it comes the moral satisfaction that can accompany life.

Do you dream about it? You feel the need to transfer their relationship with a man to the next level?

Here are tips that reveal the 4 mandatory tag conscious attitude that you need to implement.

1. The development of each partner

That means no fantasies about that, what your relationship should be in the end.

Make time for personal growth (development) in the pair than attempts to make a relationship "work" so that it was profitable to you. Your personality is important, more important than his personality.

When paired someone tries to manipulate or to demand that relations conform to personal expectations, the conflict can not be avoided. For instance, sometimes women, girls sacrifice themselves, their interests in the relationship. They think it will affect the chosen one.

But what is the result? They begin to feel a sense of oppression. Or, on the contrary, trying to remake partner to fit your needs, as it was in one of my student, which could in time make a difference:

Psychology of relationships, based on this approach leads to the conclusion in his own to create a "cell", which wants to leave as soon as possible.

The couple, who was able to build a conscious relationship in which everyone feels comfortable and free, appreciates the development the most.

2. Solution to their past relationship problems

Conscious couples know that each may be wounds received in the past. They understand that these wounds will inevitably remind you of yourself in a new relationship, if they do not work out.

The majority still believes that if there are bad feelings, differences in the pair, it means that something has gone terribly wrong. And an urgent need to do something about it. Most often, this leads to a worsening of the problem.

We are not able to see in this situation, that the unpleasant feelings stem from ourselves. They are not caused by our partners, it is caused by our beliefs and expectations.

This realization left to recall one of the most beautiful women, which was in my training:

Psychology of relationships between men and women are aware of the model enables both partners to understand that the problems of the past may well be problems of present-day relations. And all of them need to be solved in advance, laying on their shoulders the responsibility for it.

If you have once again come across the old "rake" and decide again that "all men goats" is probably time to think about the reason for repeating this.

Perhaps you are bringing too high demands on your partner want to change it, you build a profitable model of relations.

Understand yourself and give the same opportunity to the man. He will make it even more difficult than you (That's how the psychology of men in relationships).

But if the two of you decide to do this, you can make a great step through the whole "stack rake" and will no longer be distracted by little things that in the past seemed to be serious problems.

3. All the senses are welcome, and no one will be condemned

The conscious attitude has a place of trust and acceptance, where you can express any feelings and fantasies to your partner. But at the same time do so from the perspective of the psychology of women in relationships with men.

It is very rare - to be completely honest with your loved one about of who you are.

Psychology of sexual relations are also often based on the concealment is not always pleasant secrets of the past. After all, during the creation of the relationship I want to put all the good.

And when these secrets begin to slowly emerge and "crawl out", comes disappointment in each other.

So now I try to be completely honest in a relationship. But remember that there are questions that are sometimes just do not need to ask. If your man wants to share his secret, he would do it.

You may not like what you hear from him. He may also be some unpleasant things that you told. But in the end you will know that each of you is present.

A little repeat: we are used to adjust, catering to its second half, as the fear of losing it. But it destroys relationships.

The only option to save this love - to be honest. Identify all the most unpleasant in itself, put it on the argument with your partner and let him do the same.

This leads to a sense of insight and understanding - a combination that automatically enhances love.

4. Relationship as a place for true love

Love is ultimately experience. Experience acceptance, presence, forgiveness, receiving cardiac wounds.
Sometimes we treat love as the ultimate goal. We want to always feel it to the maximum. And when that feeling weakens or disappears, we no longer like that, what becomes of our relationship.
Love - is a journey and research, during which come across different versions of the relationship.

There will also be periodically there is a question: "And what I want at this moment?". So, the answer in every moment of this path will be different. The reason is your development, your personal growth, that should never stop.

Psychology relations conscious couples arranged in such a way that, based on the dedication and experience, there is strengthened and love, and relationships are such that no one not even dreamed of.

Instead of summing up I would like to ask ...

Are you ready for such actions and Change?

After making at least one of these suggestions, your man can shut out, shut in "their shell" or "break out and begin to fret and fume." And that could be the beginning of the end of the relationship. But you will understand, if he really is the right one you need.

It is so arranged relationship between a man and a woman - when there is a real feeling that no changes are so difficult in the relationship.

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Friendship man and woman from the point of view of psychology

There are a number of options for such a friendship, which depend on the specific circumstances of its occurrence. According to science of psychology, several ways of developing relations can distinguish between men and women:

One-sided love. Even with the friendly relations it happens that one partner has for the other strong feelings. It's called unrequited love, which brings a lot of suffering and pain. In this case, one does not try to show the other their feelings, not to cause controversy. It is believed that such friendship does not last long.
The couple, who split up. Relationships in this case supported between a man and a woman, are separated, but were previously spouses, lovers. According to statistics, they are friends for long and eventually diverge. Relations often interfere with past memories, pleasant moments, quarrels and even strong resentment. At any time love can be reborn again, so the friendship ends.
Friendship between a man and a woman is when they have a common outlook on life situations. Sometimes opposites attract when people have a general idea or purpose. Psychologists claim that there is such a friendship for a long time and she was not afraid of any obstacles. True friends will be considered a partner just as close in spirit and outlook. In most cases, there are not able to experience love.

How to check whether these friendships?

Boys and girls often wonder how to distinguish friendship from love. In this case it is necessary to pay attention to the following factors.

Whether there is an attachment to a partner, expression of sympathy.
and his friend together without other people there is a desire to be more often?
Is there a flirtation or flirting?
Before meeting with the other spent a lot of time if the appearance?
If one finds a soul mate, or will regret, resentment or bitterness?

If all the items only answer is negative, it indicates the presence of a true friendship. These relationships are not afraid of any obstacles. But if at least one issue in doubt, it indicates the presence of sympathy and love feelings. Romantic interest will gradually manifest itself and the final result can develop into a strong love.

Causes of friendship between the sexes

There are many opinions on this matter. Some believe that friendship is a kind of prelude, which helps to check the true feelings. Users have the opportunity to get to know each other.

More experienced professionals, including psychologists say that a man who wants to achieve women location, first asks her to become friends. So he tries to establish close contacts and looks forward to continuing the relationship.

It can be a very long list of various options for further developments. But, according to psychologists, it is necessary to consider each case separately. Each person is different, so some may not fit the standard templates. True friendship exists between people who give each other mutual understanding and respect.

varieties of friendship

There are three main template that apply to the development of friendly relations:

Friendship between people who share a common profession or purpose in life.
Relations with kindergarten, school, institution of higher education that continues into adulthood.
Ties that were formed spontaneously. There are situations where people meet in a disco, theater, and start to communicate in stadiums or on the Internet. They know that they have many common interests and generally similar outlook on life.

Friendship among men arises only because of the proximity of interests, as well as disinterested reciprocity. Psychology shows that boys become friends, if they work together and help each other. When a problem appears, it always counts on the assistance - advice business or financial means.

Psychologists believe that female friendship is becoming exclusively a temporary alliance, which helps one of the parties to achieve certain goals. That is, women are looking for in a relationship the gain or benefit.

In reality, the fair sex is often perfectly support each other, share their experiences, problems, allow one side to talk, cry, or find spiritual support. Friendship between man and woman is possible only if it does not pursue any self-interest.

Historical facts

Just a few centuries ago, between men and women, there was no friendship. Relationships are built on the following principle - the men hunted food for life, and women gave birth to children of the stronger sex, and also took care of the arrangement of the hearth.

After some time, women become associated with a certain sweet and romantic manner that poets chant. It was considered prestigious to be next to a pretty woman. After that, the stronger sex have become all the forces to seek the location of potential wives. They actively fought in tournaments, proving their superiority in fierce battles. This determines the applicant for the attention of the lady you like. It also plays an important role in the self-affirmation.

Current relations between men and women

Now a large number of representatives of the fair sex and gentle able to earn a living. It is considered fashionable situation, when the girls become a business woman, and lead an active lifestyle. Therefore, many psychologists think that women do not need to fasten friendly relations with men. Representatives of the stronger sex is no longer taking part in the battles in knightly tournaments, but trying to compete with the girls in the financial plan.

From the point of view of psychology friendship between a man and a woman is considered to be a certain kind of flirting. Such relations appear only in the version when one partner is in a legal marriage, or do not rush to answer the hot feeling of tenderness and affection.

People who were lovers, or were in a relationship, after the break is still often continue to communicate with each other. They do not have sexual relations, but they are held together by memories and common goals. Such a friendship for a long time remains stable, even when one of the friends finds a soul mate and life partner.

But according to numerous studies, scientists have found out that in most cases the friendship between opposite sexes appears due to attraction. If this continues for several years, the man and woman decide to become lovers or spouses.

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Why do men come back after breaking up: psychology boomerang-love

According to statistics, 99% of women and men have been in bitter and traumatic situation left, made mistakes in the relationship. The same psychological statistics show that men are much more likely to return to its second half after separation. Why it happens? On this account experts put forward several reasons. Here are the most common ones:

After parting - the train has left?

"With you I was really happy." In the long-term relationship between a man and a woman strong half, both naturally less responsible, fast satiated the monotony of everyday life, disappointed in the faded feelings and throws a woman considering this union mistake. Often, after a few unsuccessful experiments a man realizes that rushed to conclusions, and returns.

"A good woman, like a glass of good wine, and I will not let anyone drink from my cup." It may seem strange, but the feeling of possessiveness and competition could provoke a man to return. This is the psychology of relationships between men and women. Seeing that his place is trying to take the opponent, the man immediately breaks out a new passion for the left half.

"He's a professional," Boomerang "and the experimenter." In this case, the man goes away and comes back again and again, often breaking the woman's life these multiple ruptures. So he tries to psychologically suppress it, to gain complete power over her, not caring about her experiences. Woman trapped in such a situation, it is better to listen to the thoughts of the wise men and women, and to step aside from such "boomerang" or refer to a specialist.

What do women want from men in relationships and how to get it without destroying them?

Why men often come back after parting from the point of view of psychology, we have already found. Now let's get to exclusively feminine psychological characteristics that guys are usually perceived negatively. We present our wise ideas about the relationship between men and women of strong half of the population. They will help you to keep your union and get what you want peacefully.

Top 5 mistakes women in the relationship between man and woman, from the point of view of the latter:

I can do everything myself. It is the winner of our mistakes rankings, which allow women in relationships. Needless to say, that instead of eyes wide praise and admire, as the husband takes care of you and your home, the majority of women play the most "powerful and independent. " As a result, we get 40 cats and resentment: "Why he has not guessed?".

Another error - the notorious "Oh, everything!". By the way, women who abuse this formulation, the men after breaking up do not usually come back, and psychology explains why. Because it is impossible to live a long time with a man who, instead of immediately discuss the conflict point, and then saves offense explodes this phrase.

Nothing will stop me. Make a few dozen calls, and if he did not respond, start writing in messages "? Are you all good", "? I'm indifferent," "Ignore?" - all of this, you should not do with a man. All of this would be a mistake a woman, especially when immensely.

Try to limit his freedom. Another fatal mistake women in a relationship between a man and a woman. If you start each time a ride with him and his friends to go fishing, football, hunting, writing on his page in the social network, "He's mine forever!", And he will wait until you leave for manicures and run away, 100%.

Error women - to deal with his personality. What do women want from men in a relationship? That he was a strong, kind, loving and authoritative. And then begins: "So, leave a beard and mustache, we sbreem, airsoft and other izzhivem this silly, Acne, get rid." After a while begin to complain: "You have changed, before you were others, more courageous and more interesting." Curtain.

Banal error - reason for separation

Wise thoughts of famous people about the relationship of man and woman

Complete article wants on a positive note, quote Wise personalities, life and time-tested. After all the subtleties of the relationship between a man and a woman worried about the millions of people in all ages, women and men have always made similar mistakes. And all the right conclusions have already been formulated.

"Man is the family well-being, activity, protection, and a woman - the mood and warm atmosphere." Osho

This quote is very bright and succinctly demonstrates that women want from men in relationships. At the same time it also clearly separates the responsibilities of spouses.

Love - it's an amazing forger, constantly transforming not just pennies into gold, but often gold copper coins. ABOUT. Balzac

At the beginning of a relationship between a man and a woman is very easy in your mind to embellish the positive traits lover, and, on the other hand, after years of mistake many women become the real depreciation of the virtues partner.

"You can seduce a man, who has a wife, you can seduce a man who has a mistress, but you can not seduce a man who has a beloved woman"! Omar Khayyam

Now that you know what mistakes do not need to commit to always be loved and never think why men return after breaking up, and how to consider it from the back psychology.

"First learn to love themselves, their environment, love life, and then look for a man." Coco Chanel

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