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Phylophobia

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Phylophobia pictures Philophobia is a fear of falling in love or a fear of a real great human feeling of love. And what is love? By love is meant an intimate, as well as a sincere feeling directed at another person. Love includes the will to be persistent and faithful. This feeling arises spontaneously, in itself, being free and unpredictable. The feeling of love can not be forced to be forced, but also overcome. Perhaps, therefore, who faced this feeling before is very much afraid to experience all the tortures of love anew. Love turns inside out all the inner qualities of personality, and only good ones, giving everything away, unless it is, of course, a love addiction.

Ernest Hemingway also noticed that emptiness fills a person when a person's life ends in a bad and good. And what happens to lovers when love goes away? Emptiness, which fills depression after parting. And the pain after the love parting and emptiness can be silenced and filled only by finding something else better.

People tend to love, but the fear and fear of falling in love takes over the person. And this is phylophobia. To understand, as well as help in this case will only be able to specialists - psychologists.

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Causes of Philophobia

The causes of the development of phylophobia are hiding in unsuccessful previous relationships, as well as in situations from childhood.

Philophobia often occurs in people who are interested in it. In their dreams, they connect with love all their happy existence. In the soul, philophobes tend to love, but they subconsciously suppress it in themselves. Because of this suppression, phylophobia arises. Once suffering, the soul is shielded from all by the "shield" and does not want any more affection. There are many reasons for this. The first vivid feeling imposes the strongest imprint on the vulnerable personality and all future electors can not stand comparison with the former love. The slightest deviation from the past perfection is not accepted and the compromise becomes irrelevant. So, a person moving away from disappointments, tries to immediately exclude long-term contacts with the opposite sex. That's how phylophobia can leave people unhappy for life.

The next reason for phylophobia is the fear of being lost in a partner and losing one's immunity.

It happens that the fear of love is laid down from childhood, when parents suppressed the child's unformed personality and brought up a negative attitude to the opposite sex. In the adolescent period, the image of the ideal beloved person looms, but the invented peak will never be achieved. The child does not understand this, because the ideal is made up of books, poetry, films. The collecting image is preserved at the subconscious level and from now on the ideal becomes a protection against life. A child who grows up never introduces into his life an imperfect person. Hence the uncertainty, timidity, anxiety, difficulties during the contacts.

Also one of the reasons for phylophobia is the fear of physical imperfection( dysmorphophobia).This fear comes after a betrayal or sudden alienation of a friend.

Important reasons for phylophobia are currently the change of life values. Love gave way to career, professional interests, personal freedom. Since philophobic believes that love interferes, inhibits thinking and binds to a person.

In general, the main causes of phylophobia are fear in the future to lose a loved one or personal freedom. What to do with this phylophobia? This fear arises in need of love, and the very need for love testifies to the need to realize the inner potential. First time falling in love prevents sober reasoning and this is normal, but the emotional outburst changes the perception of reality and enables people to express themselves as much as possible.

Philophobia - symptoms

You can identify phylophobia by the following symptoms and signs: isolation from the outside world, avoiding contacts with the opposite sex, avoiding open questions, awkwardness during flirting and redness, suspiciousness, indecisiveness, anxiety, stuttering, inconsistencies.

Man by nature, being social, needs love. The experience of love is different, but it should be taken normally. In any case, love is an internal progress that helps to look at the world and yourself in a different way. Loving, fear retreats, and the man ceases to be afraid, he acts without thinking very much, very easily achieves and turns over something that he previously feared. And people who aspire to love, regardless of their failures, perfectly understand that they will win much more than they lose. Because for them the feeling of being in love is the ideal way of development in different directions. Love is a tool that removes internal clamps, as well as solving difficult problems. However, for this to happen, you need to accept a person, stop being afraid and trust in him, but do not forget about yourself.

Opening in love to a new person, we get to know ourselves better and improve. Having experienced unrequited love, we are psychologically growing up, which means that we have the opportunity to move forward without fear, because love is not present in love.

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